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Consequently we will send you folks who have a high preference for bagels of your own ethnic identity, we do so because our data shows even though users may say they have no preference, they still (subconsciously or otherwise) prefer folks who match their own ethnicity.It does not compute "no ethnic preference" as wanting a diverse preference.She wrote to the customer service for the app to complain.
My friend entered her ethnicity as Arab in Coffee Meets Bagel (you DO have the option not to state your ethnicity).
Yet she explicitly stated “no preference” in terms of potential suitors’ ethnicity – she was interested in seeing people of all different backgrounds.
This is where things start to feel, well, a little racist.
Or at the very least, that it is exposing a subtle racism.“Through millions of match data, what we found is that when it comes to dating, what people say they want is often very different from what they actually want,” Dawoon Kang, one of the three sisters who founded the app explained in an email to Buzz Feed News.
Yet, it seems like a relatively common experience, even if you aren’t from a minority group.
Amanda Chicago Lewis (who now works at Buzz Feed) wrote about her similar experience on Coffee Meets Bagel for LA Weekly : “I've been on the site for almost three months, and fewer than a third of my matches and I have had friends in common.
Which was odd only because while she herself is Arab, she never expressed any desire to date only Arab men.
Coffee Meets Bagel’s whole thing is that it does the sorting for you.
“The algorithm is NOT saying that ‘we secretly know you're more racist than you actually are…’ What it's saying is ‘I don't have enough information about you so I'm going to use empirical data to maximize your connection rate until I have enough information about you and can use that to maximize connection rate for you.’In this case, the empirical data is that the algorithm knows that people are more likely to match with their own ethnicity.