It’s important to know what you are getting yourself into.

Before your relationship gets serious, you should know what role, if any, the baby’s father has in the child’s life, and what type of relationship the two parents have with one another.

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In other words, if you’re still in the “dating just to date” phase of your life, involving a woman with a child is probably not the type of relationship you should engage in because your actions will more than likely impact the lives of two people — the woman and the child.

While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.

He also shaved his head and, apparently, that threw my friend for a loop. The actor who’d given me his head shot as soon as he learned I was a TV writer. I have a lot of friends in interracial relationships. After we were seated I asked him how many black girls he’d dated. “I don’t want to be part of your chocolate fantasy.”“Uh …

She raised an eyebrow and slurped on her vodka cranberry. I’m black and my friend Kim is white, as was the guy in question. The real estate agent I’d met at the LACMA summer jazz series. Translation: I’d never do it but I think Halle Berry’s pretty. What if I were part of some Dixieland fantasy of his? “Because maybe black girls are your thing,” I said. Another time, my boyfriend got a call from his ex-girlfriend. I’m not exaggerating when I say white people stared at us as we walked down the street. If we had them, they would be “multiethnic” or “biracial” or “mixed heritage.” All terms that annoyed me. Maisha Closson is a TV writer living in Los Angeles. If you have comments or a true story to tell, email us at [email protected]

So guys, would you date a girl after she dated a black guy?

After sharing a guest-post on step-parenting from the step-child’s point of view, one commenter asked an interesting question: “Should a man with no kids be hesitant to date a woman with kids?

“That guy over there.”I was talking to my friend, Kim, as we sipped cocktails at a bar in Hollywood.

The musician who serenaded me at the Dresden between Marty and Elayne’s sets.

Some women with children do not want any more kids, and this is an awkward conversation to have after you have already exchanged “I love yous” or “I dos.” If you want one or two kids and she already has one or two kids, this is a conversation you should have sooner rather than later.