While there are non-Christians who date with the intention of having a series of intimate physical relationships, for the Christian this is not acceptable and should never be the reason for dating.Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.

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First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.

The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).

Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.

While many courtship advocates see it as the only choice for finding a mate, others find it oppressive and overly controlling.

It is important to remember that neither dating nor courtship is mandated in Scripture.

In the end, the Christian character and spiritual maturity of the couple is far more important than the exact nature of how and when they spend time together.Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times.In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner.Finally, care must be taken to avoid the pitfall of believing one’s personal preference—dating or courting—is the “only way” and looking down upon those who make the opposite choice.As in all things, the unity of the body of Christ should be of utmost importance in our minds, regardless of personal choices others make pertaining to issues on which the Bible is silent.Courtship advocates claim that courtship allows for the two people to truly get to know each other in a more platonic setting without the pressures of physical intimacy or emotions clouding their view. For daters, spending time alone with a member of the opposite sex whom we find attractive can present temptations that can be very hard to resist.