Here's 10 easy, (mostly) pain-free steps to successfully deleting your apps, getting off your couch, and meeting someone this year. Don't negate all the effort of trying to meet someone IRL by going out in public and gluing your eyes to your phone the whole time!

No one's going to say hi if you spend the whole time at the bar tapping through Instagram stories.

There are legal issues that need to be addressed, potential career-damaging challenges for you and your coworkers, and awkward situations that neither of you want to face. Here are six dos and don’ts for dating at work to increase your chances of success.

If you’re struggling, therapy can be a useful way to help identify unproductive thought patterns and retrain your mental habits.

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Another thought comes to your head: You haven’t seen this friend in weeks. It’s the same impulse you have when you hear noises during the night, and you imagine a group of invaders stealing your laptop and eating your leftover casserole.

She declined the last time you invited, too, saying she had to stay late at work. It's the same impulse that makes you crawl out of bed and tiptoe into the kitchen to make sure nobody’s there (except the cat, of course).“If they imagine the worst possible scenario,” says Williamson, “they can be prepared for it and it won’t take them by surprise.

However, this can backfire and increase their anxiety because they’re always living ‘on edge,’ looking for a possible threat when no such threat exists.”So how do you know if you’re doing it?

If you notice any of the following clues, you might be catastrophizing.“One common thought I have seen is a person not expressing their own interests, disinterests, or boundaries for fear that it will end the relationship,” says Jessica Mac Donald, Ph D, licensed clinical psychologist and certified telebehavioral specialist at Soho CBT and Mindfulness. Mac Donald gives the example of being too tired to go out but not wanting to tell your significant other for fear of their response—that they’ll find you boring and want to break up, and you’ll be alone for the rest of your life.“Having the thought that any little disagreement or setting of a boundary will blow up the relationship is exhausting,” says Dr. You might develop resentment and the relationship may become less satisfying. Smith suggests taking ownership of your interpretation, which may help avoid reactivity and blaming.If you constantly find yourself thinking others have malicious agendas against you or are always lying to your face, you might be catastrophizing.“If someone is coming from a fearful stance over the possibility of something potentially harmful happening, they are more likely to have hair-trigger reactivity to things and people around them, become irritated easily, and often blame the other person,” says Roselyn G. Your interpretation of what another person said or did may not be what they intended, and your interpretation is not fact. Content Header .feed_item_answer_user.js-wf-loaded . This content was uploaded by our users and we assume good faith they have the permission to share this book.But just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean you have to!